Have you ever been thinking why your love patterns were always the same ending, but with the different set of people or places? Is like a blind spot from the side mirror of a car. You really needed to zoom in with a magnifier to see what to declutter the unhealthy patterns of love. You are the driver of your life, is you that maneuver your life to see which directions that you want to go.
Imagine you are the driver you needed to make a turn or even overtaking another vehicle, always look at the back to ensure you are not putting yourself or anyone at the jeopardy. Sounds familiar? Yes indeed. Same goes to our life, we sometimes overlook on certain trivial stuff. However trivial stuff may snow balls to bigger problems later in life. Then is too late to resolve as it may take many times and effort to solve.
My co-director Bunny use to say this, “I can feel your pain literally”. Sounded kind of sarcastic right? Hahaha, yes, it is because Bunny always sees me facing the same problem after a few same incidents that I faced. Now I put side mirrors on my shoulder and plus a micro side mirror on it so that I am much more careful in making any decisions. Nah, just a joke.. Hahah
I knew you would say, it is not simple to know whether you have a repetitive negative patterns. Well, take a deep look within your past trauma in your childhood. Also dig deep in your past pain of your relationships, does it ring the bell? Same hurt and same reasons of breakup? Sometimes people said forget about the past. Pause for a moment, if you do not solve the problem. The root of the problem will be resurfaced, remember the blog I wrote about the “Pink Elephant”? If you do not remember, slowly tiptoe to my daily boost under the topic of “I feel banana as the pink elephant is visible.”
For a quick example : A father and his 3 years old daughter. One day the little girl asked the father to play dolls with her, but her father was too busy. He shouted at the little girl unintentionally because he was in the middle of an important call from his client. The father did not know that this incident will change the life of this little girl to accept this incident from her future love that is a normal behavior.
So what happened is, when this girl becoming a young beautiful lady, she found a partner. Her partner treated her badly. To her it was normal. She felt disappointed and break up with her partner. Few years later, she found another partner. The ending was the same and her relationship was hardly staying for long. Do you recognized the pattern?
Darling, don’t be sad and I knew how you feel.
Forgive of what has happened in the past. Improve your lifestyle, taking up some new courses, seek the professional assistance or allow your friends and family to help you when you are needed.
Love and love. Compassion and empathy.
Move forward with the brand new of your life.
There is one interesting thing that I encountered was this Ho’oponopono. It is your choice to pick this choice but for me it has changed me for a better person. I am grateful for what I have and I am in love with myself. I want to share my knowledge with others. To inspire each other for a peaceful life.
What Is Ho’oponopono?
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice for forgiveness and reconciliation. It’s more than the prayer alone; it’s a process of making things right in your relationships — with others, ancestors, deities, the earth, yourself.
There are four forces at work in this prayer: repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love. These are reflected in the four phrases that make up the prayer.
The phrases, which you can repeat in any order, silently to yourself or out loud, are:
- I am sorry.
- (Please) Forgive me.
- Thank you.
- I love you.
It’s neat to see what questions arise as you keep up with the practice, like:
- “What am I sorry for?”
- “Where do I still need forgiveness?
- “Where am I still seeking forgiveness?
- “What am I thankful for?”
- “Do I really feel loved?” “Why am I worthy of love?” “Where do I want to feel more love?”
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